Check please! Chapter 1: Check Your Ego
This is the first of a series of writings meant to offer perspective (in as humble a fashion as possible) for the benefit of any who hope to make their way.
As the title may suggest, it goes against a certain grain. How very counter-cultural. Indeed, how very against-human-nature to keep one's pride in check. Especially in our go-getter American culture, we receive many messages about "being #1" or at least intense focus on "being special" or "just being you."
Self-concepts aside, can someone be truly humble AND successful? Can the drive be tempered by the calm?
Anything is possible, but this is also probable - if you want it to be.
Speaking from one of my experiences, it's often asked "who's the better artist?" when we're offering a particular service (especially with multiple artists doing the same thing.) It's a trap! There's no good answer without hurting feelings or coming across as competitive where it's not needed.
Because "I'm the boss" am I supposed to claim that title too?
Isn't it subjective? One persons taste will be different from another's despite how good the results are.
Is experience the defining factor or are there intangibles such as personality and how you make the guest feel?
The answer? I often jokingly respond "we always do OUR best. If you like the results, I guess the artist you choose is the best artist for YOU."
It works very well.
You can do a great job, seek (not obsess) growth and wisdom, and enjoy the process instead of being compelled by the result.
It takes practice. Even in the best of circumstances when there's plenty of work to go around and not enough time to over-reflect (as many creatives do.)
Put that practice into the NOW with the pandemic - the stress of cancellations and the test of all relationships. How can one have faith in such things?
Trials - both good and bad - reveal flaws in our character. The test brings about change, sometimes not the change you want. Habits both good and bad are formed and the person you become evolves to (or from) the person you were before the test.
WHO (not what) do you hope to become? Someone known as cocky, arrogant, competitive? Or someone known as kind, confident and enjoyable to be around?
Will history mention you? What praise do you need once you're dead?
This perspective is meant to give you the mental stretch into a crossroads. Which way do you want to be known for?